Funerals: dark suit, white shirt and a subdued tie
Weddings: dark suit if evening or lighter color if a day weddingI've spoken

I'm a super casual person, but I still think we should be presentable/respectable when in that kind of group setting. You'll be seeing people you may not have seen in awhile....why not put your best foot forward?I started teaching in a time when my district required panty hose with dresses. By the time I left, the younger teachers wore chinos and sandals. Teaching is an active job.....we get on the floor and have kids throw up around us...use markers that leak ......so..... I did not wear my best stuff. Mostly khakis but I did try to cover my feet! Outside recess was very hot, too, so sleeveless ...
It was a balance to look professional while being cool and comfortable.
I believe how we look shows respect (or lack of) and we receive what we sow.

@texas2011 : I agree.

@redneckroy : If I were the big boss this person would have had to explain to me what in the world were the thinking? Then they'd be suspended a few days at the very least - and without pay.

Idk... I'm what some here would consider an "old fart" (but not an empty nester yet! 🙆‍♀️), but I'm kind of woke. I don't really care who wears what to what in 2020. Show up to church in jeans and a Tee? Fine with me... you're here! Funeral in similar attire? You're here! Worship/grieve however you're comfortable. Interviews may be a different story, but for the most part, times have changed. I say, do you! 👍

@rocket : In my small town my entire life people have shown up in jeans & a tea-shirt . And lots have on nice pants & a cotton knit top wither female or male .We dress in nice clothes husband has tie & jacket . Makes me no difference what someone else wears .

@rocket : I agree

Appropriate dresses and suits and ties for weddings, funerals, holiday church services and job interviews. For regular church services, dresses and dress pants, dress shirt and tie for hot and humid Houston. I want to wear my best to dress as respectfully as possible for the occasion.

@tflea : But you wear coat & Tie at weddings & funerals & nice restaurants & such Oh & church . You hate it I know but you still do it .

@rocket : I hope when I die anyone there is welcome because they will know and love me. If my heir should shame them, I will drop down and take my money away and he will feel my presence. Why not just be glad he had the respect to come?
This being said, there will be no funeral for me but a beach party so wear your bathing suit or not!!!

They showed up, who are we to judge their clothes?

@Vodkatini : At least he has a silk T on, and he's a gentleman.

When my Mom died, I had bought a black dress but once I thought of it, she loved the way I wore pastels and I ended up in a peace suede suit that she had loved. I am far more correct going to a wedding.

@ladybeachbum : You're right , even though we were taught a certain way, sometimes people's situations call for different things. At least the guys showed upand it could have been a last minute decision. My friend's little girl died a few years ago and there were several people at the funeral in work clothes. We servers & the cooks had only an hour and then we had to get back to work. I know some others took a short time off for work to give their respects. It was odd but just was how it had to be if we all wanted to be there for her. I remember being mad because my SIL only came for the sermon part of my stepkids funeral and then went to work. She was the boss and could take off whenever she needed to. It turned out she just couldn't bear being there even if it was to support us, she couldn't do it.

@chasinghosts : Awe. See we really shouldn't question motives of others. When my Dad died there were all kinds of people and most I didn't know but they knew me as his baby girl. I was 29. Some people could stay for the lunch and some had to get back to work.