@DaycareMom: I'm the same way. Would rather do for myself as best I can than ask for help. The ring post sounds like a blatant ploy to me. There will always be those out there that want (or expect) others to take care of them. I applaud you for your ethic & your kind heart for offering what you could.

@DaycareMom : I remember seeing that post about the ring a while ago. Seemed off to me. I'm like you, I would be hard pressed to ask the public for help. I feel the same way as you do in this. Enjoy your tequila shot!

@DaycareMom : If they come on asking someone to buy their stuff, I'd say take it if you want to donate money. If she offers it, and doesn't go forward she was just wanting free money. I'm tempted on those things but I'm guessing a lot are just gimmee.

@DaycareMom : Girl! First off, no you are not a negative person! You are a very giving person! You would give someone the shirt off your back to help someone out that truly needed it!No you are not the only one that thinks that. I belong to a few dog groups on fb. People have been caught before asking for help with vet bills and it was proven later they didn't even have a dog. Really? That is low! I have felt so bad for the pup but thankfully have never given to one of these. Now people provide the vet name & phone number & people can give that way..
There are tons of ways to make money these days without asking for a handout. I have been selling gold jewelry to help pay for my MBA. I could take out student loans, but I don't want to. If that woman really had a ring to sell, she could have put it one fb marketplace. There is nothing wrong with being suspicions. It's wise. Keeping being you, a wonderful Mom to those wonderful boys you are raising!💕

@DaycareMom : No, we just live in a society where people mistake discernment for negativity. People take advantage of kind people. It doesn't make you a negative person to point that out.

I respect the hustle.....If you give people what they ask for, they have earned it.

@DaycareMom, & everyone else who has responded , you are not wrong. I agree with everyone -there are people who just expect things handed to them. It's like giving people water & a hamburger at Lowe's or Walmart & they say no I just want cash. Hang in there you are good to go

@rabbit8 : You and I have different definitions of hustling. To me its being lazy and taking advantage of kind hearted people. There are many options one has if they fall upon hard times and can't feed their kids. Food banks, churches... not asking complete strangers on Facebook. It's just tacky and unethical to me

This is probably wrong of me, but for the most part, I reserve my "hand outs" to people I know. My circle of acquaintances is large enough that it encompasses many different economic situations. At least this way, I know it is someone who actually really needs it, and not someone who makes a living from pretending to be in distress.

@DaycareMom : Especially if you're exploiting a personal relationship to get things off that person. That's not a hustle, that's extortion.

@DaycareMom : I think for one, it's just easier to do things like this today with social media popularity and two- so many of us have been trained to expect handouts, some people will try to get something for nothing wherever they can, just because they know they can.

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eh, my friend always carries cash to give it away, I am more of a pessimist. I give to charities. does it matter? probably not...there are those truly in need and appreciative, and scammers. sometimes it's hard to parse the two.why I primarily give to charity organizations and not individuals.

@DaycareMom : You, a horrible person!!!! NEVER!!!! I read you as a person with a heart of gold! However, that does not mean that you appreciate being taken advantage of. People in the past have driven you to tears and have broken your heart because they were merely takers and took advantage of your kind hearted ways. No, you are not at all a bad person. You should listen to your inner voice (your intuition) because it will not mislead you. Remember, it is good to be kind, but not to the point to where it enables a scammer/con artist (or just a flat all out selfish, thoughtless individual). Offering them canned goods or offering to purchase a meal is very kind. When someone refuses the offer (and there is no form of appreciation), that is a very telling sign. Their agenda is clearly something other than what they are saying it is. While is good to be kind, you need to take care of you and yours first. And don't feel bad, if you have been fooled before. Those of us who care to help someone have all been down that road. The problem is that there are a lot of con artists out there. And there are a lot of people who want someone else to help them, but refuse to help themselves (creating a vicious cycle of constantly "needing" help). As I have told my daughter, if just feel you must help, you can offer to pay for a meal for them (and actually pay for the meal ... don't give them the money) if you are in an environment (not isolated) where you can safely purchase their meal for them.

@DaycareMom : If ask you for a dollar and you give it to me, I now have a dollar. This is how trade works an wealth is built. If I say I will teach you to fish for a dollar and you give me a dollar, I now have a dollar. It is no more complicated then asking in may circumstance and why many people fail at business. They are afraid to ask.... because they are afraid how others will perceive them. I will take a dollar that is given, I will not steal it. Thus I have earned it. I want the dollar, all I have to do is convince enough people to give me their dollar. That's hustling.