@ladybeachbum : Yep, I could have really used her being there, but it wasn't in the cards. More than 600 people each night and then the day of the burial it was around 800 and it was just so stressful and we needed them to watch our boys. MIL & FIL couldn't bear to be there either. Very rough stuff.

@ladybeachbum : I think that question comes with some qualifications. If the person found out last minute about the service, or they dressed in a manner the dearly departed might appreciate then sure. That's something however that might remain unknown.However in my opinion if at all possible a person should attend certain events with some sense of fashion decorum. It not only shows some level of respect for yourself but also respect for the occasion. I hear all the time that well society has changed and people want to be comfortable above all else.Apparently that is true. For example, people wear clothes to church now that would have been unthinkable 30 years ago in most congregations. In that vain a buddy of mine and I had a philosophical discussion about this some years ago. I asked if a person was invited to spend an hour with the POTUS in the Oval what would they wear?We both concluded that the average person would probably wear some type of business or at the least business casual attire. Then I said why would they wear that for a president, but attend worship services for the King of the World in far less? The point was in most cases it's not that people are not capable of dressing appropriately for the occasion, it's more whether they feel the event merits them to do so.And perhaps that is the reason the guy in the T-shirt got disapproving looks. Though with the caveat we'll never know why he showed up that way or what's in his heart.

@ladybeachbum : bathing suit or birthday suit?😄

@Vodkatini : If it's my going away party and we know a lot of the Sheriffs in the area and they get invited, you can do either.

It's a lack of respect to both the deceased and their family to show up at a funeral dressed in T shirt and jeans. Maybe the jeans, but at least a nice button down shirt, tucked.
When my Dad died, farmers and factory workers left their fields and factories early to go home, clean up and dress respectfully. Some showed up in jeans to the viewing, but not T shirts.

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How you dress for any occasion not only reflects upon your level of respect for others, but also yourself. I know that when I am dressed nicely, I feel better in general. Not sure why, but I do. For instance, when I'm home sick, if I sit on the couch in my pajamas all day, my funk deepens but if. Get up, bathe and dress at least in jeans or loose slacks, my entire demeanor brightens. As for worship, you can't overdress for God. He deserves my utmost. Funerals, subdued and respectful. Work- depends on your position but always clean and today. Grocery store, no pajamas or house shoes please.

@chasinghosts : That is so sad and such stress on you at a time you needed everyone. I can joke about my Celebration of life but if it was my son, I can't even wrap my mind about what I would do If I lost my son or Goddaughter.

My wife already knows for my funeral, no suits, shorts are ok if it is the ***-blistering Texas summer, etc. It is my way of saying thank you for coming to pay your respects, by not making you feel like you have to be uncomfortable. Who has ditched a funeral or only went to the viewing so you didn't have to dress up for one reason or another?And @eighteen - you are absolutely right about putting that wedding/funeral suit on day of and not fitting anymore! No, I didn't put on a T-shirt, but for in that day and age, no coat and khakis were frowned upon!